Gardening in the Valley

Black Mountain News

We are extremely proud to have a monthly  column in The Black Mountain News.  The column is titled Gardening in  the Valley and the author is a member of the committee.  Typically the column is the third Wednesday of each month.  So pick up a copy of the paper.



Also want to thank Rhonda Reedy for her behind the scenes management of the column and working with the paper.   For being a relatively new member, she has already done so much for  our committee.

Committee  members interested in writing an article, please contact Rhonda.  If  you are wondering what to write about, select  a month and we can offer  you some suggestions. 

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Building your own memory garden


A few weeks ago, I was given the  opportunity to assist a beloved friend with some yard work. This was  significant as she does not normally ask for help. 

Her  husband passed away earlier this year and she has been struggling to  maintain his standards, so there was special meaning in shaping up her  lawn. It was a gorgeous day with the mountains in the background, leaves  at their peak colors and a crisp, fall breeze. 

Trimming  and cleaning along with others brought cheerful thoughts of the friend  who was still here with me and of my friend who was with me in  spirit. The best part of the day was the happiness on her face when we  finished. 

I think the group of folks that worked  out in the yard that day were all honoring the memory of her late  husband as well as just enjoying the peacefulness of gardening.

On  the recommendation of my Hospice grief counselor, I created a memory  garden after my mom and aunt passed away in 2013. It’s a small, four  feet by four feet, area in the back yard with plenty of sunshine. I  started out by planting a few flowers which over the years have  blossomed into many of their favorite flowers. 

Over  time, I added a garden statue, memorial stone and an occasional garden  flag.  There is a seating area close by that allows me to relax,  meditate or listen to some of our favorite music while remembering the  countless good times we had together. I also find it comforting to  switch out the area as the weather changes which reminds me of the years  my mom spent refreshing the house with decorations every season and  holiday. 

Make  your memory garden as small or big as you like to create a healing  experience, not a chore. It could be a spot in the yard, a pot on the  patio or a plant in the house.  

Choose plants,  flowers or trees that have a special significance to you and your loved  one. Choose their favorite colors and flowers that have a scent that  brings back a happy memory. 

A bench offers a place  to reflect and relax. A memorial plaque with information about their  life, verses from your favorite poem or pictures add a soothing touch. 

As our lives continue to be busier, it seems there is never enough time to focus on our individual needs. 

Memory  gardening allows you to produce something beautiful while relaxing with  pleasant thoughts of loved ones who are around you with the growth of  each new seed.


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